Who should Come first?

The initiator is initiated so they could be the same person. Perhaps you could rephrase? Perhaps you mean the initiatee? I think the initiatee should come first. After all it is their first sexual experience and the intitiator should control themselves and make sure that they have a great first time. After the initiatee has had one or two orgasms then the initiator can get their rocks off if they want to. Although it must be noted that watching someone orgasm for the first time can be alarming to an initiatee. It can appear as if the initiator has lost control or is having some kind of spastic fit or seizure.

Ummm it's not really an ethical conundrum though is it? And an ethical conundrum would be relative to whatever ethics one believes in or that one has adopted via osmosis by virtue of one's place of birth. From the looks of the content on this website it appears that the contributors don't have any ethics other than bitching and whining about things they can't control. Which is kind of idiotic.

Here is an ethical conundrum for you then:
Should you get your limp dick burned or shredded!??!
Suit your ethics???? As for osmosis...I'll pencil it up ya epiglottis!@

That's better. But I think its more a question of whether it suits your ethics if you are going to be doing the shredding and burning. I would be the victim I guess and as such you would acting against my will. Is inflicting physical damage to male genitalia a predilection of yours? A fetish perhaps? Something to do on the weekends? Personally I decline to engage in such activities.

Be a man not a mouse;
Pull ya dick it's fucking grouse!

The real conundrum is the fact that the idiot who posted this and then amended the text after the first few comments can't even spell initiatee even when it's spelled for him. Ever heard of cut and paste moron?!?!

No initiative!

I came, she saw, and she swallowed.

Answer your question fuckwit?